It is usually easier to remember what others fail to do for us, What they did to us, how they live their lives and how we are better off but difficult to contemplate our faults.
We love to be appreciated and respected even though we give out less.
There is no better way to live well except when we go inward, recognizing our weakness, especially in our relationships with others. The same way people's lifestyles irritate us, it is still the same way our life irritates others. Sadly, we are too outward to recognize this. We are more concerned with our strength. We judge people at any slightest opportunity but when the same measure is given to us, we feel that we have been treated unjustly.
None is perfect and this is something we need to accept and then try as much as possible to accommodate others. By this, I do not mean that we should not speak up against wrongs but that we should do it with charity. There are certain defects in people that can't be corrected easily. They might be irritating to us but having seen that the said persons are fighting against it, it is ideal we bear with them, supporting them in whatever way we can.
The evil in the world is partly because of our selfishness. We think more of our benefits. We want everything to go out way. This is not healthy. The left hand cannot wipe itself clean without the help of the right hand. They both need to come together to make each other clean. This is how we should live; helping ourselves by helping each other. We live so that all will live.