Listen to your friends

ibbtammy in #hive-124452 • last year

I was reflecting on my life and I concluded that I am a bad listener especially when I am talking to my friends that are good listeners.

I can listen to some people talk about various things but there are some set of my friends that I would keep interrupting them and keep talking and talking.

These set of my friends have no problem with this, they’d go on and on saying I should talk about my life that their lives are not as eventful as mine and like the talkative that I am, full of so many stories, dramas and jokes I would talk away forgetting the other person even exist.

So these my friends would always listen to me vent, complain, sulk and even cry, they’d contribute, advise me , try to proffer solutions and even try to cheer me up in the best way that they can but I later discovered that these my three friends were going through their own shit without me knowing.

Like one of them said “IB I just enjoy you talk because nothing actually is going on in my life” so I finally decided not to be a bad friend anymore and ask three of them to narrate all that have been happening in their lives, this time it wasn’t about me it was about them.

I called them differently one day and what I heard broke my heart.

One of my friend is sick and she would have to be on medication for a very long time, I was shocked, when I asked her why she didn’t tell me about it she said she didn’t want my pity and that I get all emotional when things pertaining to health is mentioned and it would now be all about her instead of her listening to all my interesting stories.

I felt so bad, it hit me so hard that I have been selfish for too long, accepting their boring stories instead of asking them questions and listening to them talk about everything happening in their lives.

Having experienced such guilt I had to advise myself to change for good. Operation LISTEN is now my new motto.

No matter how you tell me your life has been boring or uneventful you’re sure as hell describing every details of it, I have all the time to LISTEN and when i mean LISTEN I mean even the tiniest or minute detail is of essence.

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As we go on and on blabbing our lives out to our friends it is important that we take a pause and listen to them as well, most of them may not be able to completely express how they feel at a go or what they are going through but as a good friend it is your job to continue to let them talk, the more they talk the more you get to know what is really going on in their lives, listen to them, do not judge and cheer them up if need be and yes this is coming from someone that has learnt the hard way.

Thanks for stopping by
Loads of love🥰🥰
XOXO

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jhymi last year

I have found myself guilty of this before so I can totally relate to how you must have felt seeing you didn't listen to your friends enough and was mostly caught up in your own world. No matter how 'juicy' our stories may be. Sometimes, pushing it aside and taking the time to be there for the people who need us will make us even more fulfilled. I'm glad you realized this though. And it means a lot that you could share it was.
!LUV💕🌺

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ibbtammy last year

Sometimes, pushing it aside and taking the time to be there for the people who need us will make us even more fulfilled.

Learnt the hard way and you are correct, I feel somewhat fulfilled, less guilty and happy that I get to be there for my friends😃
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princessbusayo last year

So many things are happening that end such a victim doing drastic things because no one refused to listen to them. After all, we think, our problems are much more than the other person's. We shouldn´t compare or judge people, rather, we should listen to them. Through that, we get those little details and know what they are facing.

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ibbtammy last year

After all, we think, our problems are much more than the other person's

I tell you, you feel like life is hard on you just wait till you hear the next person's story you will be grateful to God that your story is not that bad.

It pays to listen to your friends

Thanks for reading😃

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wongi last year

I inculcated the habit of listening a long time again and it has really been helpful. I'm someone who loves to learn from other people's experiences and without a listening ear, one can't learn.

I'm glad your new motto is now listen 😂. I could do the job of constantly reminding you if you want✨

Thank you for sharing ☺️

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ibbtammy last year

I'm glad your new motto is now listen 😂. I could do the job of constantly reminding you if you want✨

By all means please do🥰🥰

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wongi last year

With pleasure 😅

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