LIKE A GOOD HUSBAND AND FATHER

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I recently became a husband and I have been enjoying all the perks that come with it. My wife has been amazing and we are currently having our honeymoon (a great way to start the year). Nevertheless, something happened yesterday that got me thinking deeper about my role as a husband (and a potential father in the coming years).

So we were having a conversation about something I did (wrong), and I was a bit defensive. I halted the conversation because I could not process the things she was telling me. After my little tantrum, my conscience was pricked and I asked myself: is this how you want to lead your household?

I am a Christian who believes in Christian values and one of the major responsibilities given to a man is to guide and protect his home, wife and kids. As a matter of fact, there is a part in the Bible that equates a man who cannot take care of his home to an infidel. This goes to show how much value the Bible places on the male figure and his duty to his household.

Now, most men equate care to finance. Being able to provide financially for the people you care about is a privilege and duty, however, it is just the tip of the iceberg. "Caring" for one's family also entails considering their emotional well-being. To achieve this a man needs not only to be emotionally stable but also intelligent. He must be able to regulate his emotions even in times of crisis because he will always give account to what happens in his home.

So it dawned on me once more, that I am now a husband and potentially a father and that comes with certain responsibilities. To achieve my goal of being an amazing husband/father, I need to act better; regulate my emotions better and set better examples for my kids and a safe space for my wife, and that entails being the bigger person all the time.

I am not trying to put any pressure on anyone or myself, however, I think there is a high moral standard I must uphold to enjoy the benefits of a happy home. If I act with empathy and care, those who follow me will do so with ease. That was my epiphany yesterday, and I am sharing this hoping it helps something. Cheers!

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You are very right @nonsowrites. A man as the head of the house should be held accountable as regards to his wife and kids.

However, no matter what ever crises that should arise in the house, a man should stay stronger, because this will bring lots of encouragement to deal with the crises.

Thanks for this awesome lesson teaching publish. Happy New Year 🎉🎆.

However, no matter what ever crises that should arise in the house, a man should stay stronger, because this will bring lots of encouragement to deal with the crises.

I agree. It is a God-given mandate. Not the easiest but it ensures the structure of a home stays strong.

Sure @nonsowrites. You said it all. Lots of blessings to you and all your loved 🥰 ones.

I think you'll gradually graduate into becoming the bigger person as time goes by. It mostly requires changing standpoint on how we see and process things.

yeah I agree. In addition, spending time with someone helps me see the world from a different viewpoint.

Yes, someone who has developed that ability and sees the world differently. For me, the struggle is centered around switching between different viewpoints. I think a single viewpoint has some inadequacies.

Empathy and care, you have said all. With this two things, your home will be a blessed home. I really loved it when you said your conscience called you back, I just wish all men are like you. A man with conscience has empathy in him.

I hope you enjoy your honeymoon and marriage. Your home is blessed already.

Empathy and care, you have said all. With this two things, your home will be a blessed home. I really loved it when you said your conscience called you back, I just wish all men are like you. A man with conscience has empathy in him.

Yeah, just doing my part 🙂. I think when you treat people esp those who love ans care about you with kindness, they tend to reciporate.

I hope you enjoy your honeymoon and marriage. Your home is blessed already.

Thank you very much

Congratulations on being a husband. That name definitely comes with a lot of responsibilities. You'll do great. Have a good one.

Thank you very much.

Thank you Nonso for sharing this lesson with us. It's one to learn and be intentional about taking total responsibility as the head of a home.

At times, I hear people say that, "a man can't change or an adult can't change", in the sense of becoming better in character and mindful of the actions taken in family. But, my response has always been that, "anyone who is willing to become better will definitely make efforts in order to live peacefully and in unity with those around you."

You have shared some lessons for men to consider to be a good husband and father.

Congratulations and happy married life.

Yeah, anyone is intentional about being the best vision of themselves can change in the right direction. It only takes time, practise and unlearning unhealthy patterns. This is what I hope to achieve in my marriage.

Thanks for stopping by...

You're very much correct.

It only takes time, practise and unlearning unhealthy patterns.

That's a line to adopt.

You're welcome.