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hehe, I can relate to inflexibility. And I can smile and laugh about it... because I have an impatient, inflexible little human too. Good to hear that growth and understanding happens in that area too over the years. My Jack is very black and white - I don't think he knows what grey is! He is very literal. Idioms and slang are mostly foreign concepts to him that he really doesn't get. He just thinks they are stupid and make no sense. For example, when we were having a video call with a children'spsychologist for his autism assessment, the psychologist eventually got him talking... after about 1/2 hour... and then asked if something drove him up the wall... as in... made him crazy or irritated him... and his response?
I don't get it! What do you mean? Do you mean driving on a wall? But how do I even do that???
Even after explaining it to him, he simply said, I don't get it. That's dumb!
Time is a concept Jack struggles with too. His needs are such that he gets bored very quickly and craves interaction and entertainment because he struggles to self-entertain. So when he asks for something like... to go to the skate park, to play a board game, to build lego blocks, or to be taken to the shop... the need is an immediate one, and if not satisfied immediately, he starts to spiral because he doesn't know what to do with himself and he becomes fixated on the specifics. If I say give me 10 minutes... I will have him asking me for 10 minutes when 10 minutes is up... basically negating the 10 minutes that I need to finish what I am doing so I can actually give him my attention. So the 10 minutes stretches to 15 or 20 ... now... he has taken it upon himself to set an Alexa alarm for whatever time frame we give him... but when that alarm goes off... there is no further negotiation... then we have to go, to do, immediately.
If his behaviour has been unacceptable and I explain to him where/how things could have been done better, and better choices made... and then proceed to explain... if x happens again then y consequence will follow eg: no gaming for a few days, he leaps immediately to the consequence as if it is already in place and melts down, often saying...
What??? So now I can't play Fortnite... ever again, like forever? You are so mean, I hate you!
And I sigh and have to rein him in gently and explain that a couple of days does not mean forever... but maybe you know... because of his concept of time and need for specific focus areas in his life, just maybe a couple of days is forever for him in his framework of understanding... maybe that is what it feels like... and I have grown to understand that time moves so much slower from his perspective so I have to adjust my expectations and adapt to him. And so I will generally just give him a day break from something he loves to do, as a consequence of poor behaviour, and will try to tie the consequence to the poor choices being made so that it makes sense and is fair.
I guess the other side of the coin for me is except for a few things that he can honestly do for hours on end, a lot of activities only hold his attention for short intense bursts of time... (likely die to his ADHD) so if he has asked me to do something that I may not enjoy myself very much... even though I will do it and get fully involved with it, he often gets bored of it fairly soon anyway and wants to move on to something different !LOLZ - the flip side to that being, if I am enjoying it - he cuts that enjoyment short! sigh
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